tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post6536129532667195607..comments2023-08-05T11:52:16.538-04:00Comments on Diary of a Broke Ass Woman: Would You Send This?Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)http://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-91928032498122681942012-05-26T18:25:35.784-04:002012-05-26T18:25:35.784-04:00Were we seeing the same person??? Wow! The resembl...Were we seeing the same person??? Wow! The resemblance is uncanny! Anywho....I hope you send/sent it.Neverendingchasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11763135810045608836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-71445726696716955352012-03-02T21:02:05.032-05:002012-03-02T21:02:05.032-05:00Im probably late and you probably already made you...Im probably late and you probably already made your decision, but i just happen to stumble on your blog. This post was very interesting and I could sort of relate to it. I saw the comments that people wrote, some were for sending it,some were against it. I been a little bit well a lot been in a relationship wit a dude for a year, and i been fucked over as well, the same stuff you've been through. As others had said dont send it , i ABSOLUTELY AGREE. im going to state y. I wrote a letter myself, but i do not send it, its for me to release all the anger and hurt that was done to me. you sending it will show that HE STILL HAS THE POWER OVER YOU!! do not let a man think he has the power over you because than its a lose lose situation. He will read that smiling inside saying yea i still got you ya dig. you may think im nuts but im so serious!. you have forgive and move on. he was just not the guy for you. i always go with what goes around comes around. may not be today, tomorrow but soon enough. My ex hurt me the same way dude hurt and played you. time went by and i said WTF was i thinking and i even texted out of the blue like nothing ever happened. FUCKED his head up, he's prob thinking what the fuck, y she so happy and calm to me, cz i moved the fuck on..lmao..Sattapiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17957478118873013627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-90030758726492636382012-02-24T23:09:21.464-05:002012-02-24T23:09:21.464-05:00I hear ya. And you know what, I was crazy. Crazy...I hear ya. And you know what, I was crazy. Crazy for putting up with it. So if I am still crazy for sending the letter then so be it. Hopefully it will be my last crazy act when it comes to this monster.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-6141065507748786022012-02-24T23:06:13.851-05:002012-02-24T23:06:13.851-05:00Thank you sweets so very much for seeing it from b...Thank you sweets so very much for seeing it from both ways. And taking the time to come back and reply to my response. <br /><br />You can't make this more simple and plain as you have done here. In fact, I won't even drag it out either. I hope I have the right 'box' out of the two choices in your reply, and honestly I think I do. If I sent that letter...the door would be sooooo closed. That's what I know delivering it would mean to me. <br /><br />Let's see what happens. The decision deadline is March 2.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-52707675632424214362012-02-24T19:25:08.431-05:002012-02-24T19:25:08.431-05:00I'll put it to you a different way. There are ...I'll put it to you a different way. There are only two reasons you would send the letter. <br /><br />1) You really have a lot to say and it's the most effective way for you to relay a message to him. It allows you to get everything off your chest without interruption and it really has an opportunity to at a minimum resonate on some level with him. You want him to truly understand how you feel.<br /><br />2) The physical act of sending the message, in and of itself, is going to make you feel better and help you to heal and recover faster than you would otherwise.<br /><br />If it's the former, leave it alone. It's a complete waste of time and energy. If it's the latter, I say go for it.davidruffin83https://www.blogger.com/profile/02981979766553148826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-41803160900567657302012-02-23T23:58:55.478-05:002012-02-23T23:58:55.478-05:00Thanks Laki. So you have a perspective from both ...Thanks Laki. So you have a perspective from both sides. I'll sit on it. I do feel that it would make me feel better to send it and not worrying about the 'after'. It always bugs me to be denied my ability to say how I feel. If I don't send it, I don't wanna be like, "Damn I should I have sent it." I wouldn't be able to get a response because I have blocked him being able to do that anyway. So I am not looking for a reply, nor do I expect one. Whatever smug face he might have is cool, because once you don't GAF you don't care how they react....right? <br /><br />Bottom line it's whatever decision will make me feel better. Just gotta decide what that decision is.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-56930939860991254092012-02-23T17:36:18.715-05:002012-02-23T17:36:18.715-05:00I think a lot of women feel me like u.
I wish bur...I think a lot of women feel me like u.<br /><br />I wish burning the letter Wld burn the bad feelings but that's a dream. I don't feel liberated penning something intended for someone and not sending it. <br /><br />Although I wish it were that simple. :)Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-20415905163837278502012-02-23T17:32:21.053-05:002012-02-23T17:32:21.053-05:00Believe it or not, I would treat it as message in ...Believe it or not, I would treat it as message in a bottle ---not caring how it is received or if I get a response. He might read it:; he might not. I feel u on the silent thing, but its too late for that bc I haven't been silent. But I never went this hard. I always stayed nice about it. <br /><br />It Wldnt totally be a waste of time if I was simply satisfied with delivering it. I already know he won't respond so that's not even a thing. I blocked all his stuff so he can't contact me anyway. If I sent it, it Wld be sp final in my mind. So final....<br /><br />I dunno. Still thinking but I hear u loud and clear.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-17549820804242293012012-02-23T16:48:52.977-05:002012-02-23T16:48:52.977-05:00Honestly you're probably wasting your time sen...Honestly you're probably wasting your time sending it. It doesn't really sound like he's the type to take the time to even read it. I will tell you as a much kinder and gentler individual than I used to be, if a dude busting your head like that then he doesn't really care what your feelings on the subject are. The women saying it will give him a feeling of power over you are speaking from an estrogen fueled perspective. That's why guys know the easiest way to get to a woman is the silent treatment.davidruffin83https://www.blogger.com/profile/02981979766553148826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-21857492733931253212012-02-23T11:51:03.621-05:002012-02-23T11:51:03.621-05:00I feel like this right now...I feel like writing a...I feel like this right now...I feel like writing a letter just like this so it is not fair for me to answer. The emotionally broken me says fck it...send it...The rational me says sit on it...you got it off your chest now burn it.Newyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01246156418638539460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-8547411023834794102012-02-23T00:03:17.952-05:002012-02-23T00:03:17.952-05:00I'd wait max 3 days if it were me and I was al...I'd wait max 3 days if it were me and I was already calm but that's me and I tend to get called the crazy white chick by most of my friends so you can take that how you will. However if you really believe he needs to hear it by all means send it. And my opinion, he does.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10663134632448670751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-85299860417052265592012-02-21T18:32:21.604-05:002012-02-21T18:32:21.604-05:00I'm kinda on the fence on whether you should s...I'm kinda on the fence on whether you should send it or not too. I've written a few emails like this. I've sent one. Usually, all I need to do is write it out and maybe reread it a few times before I feel better and can delete it and move on with my life. For the most part, I don't like sending them because I know there will be at least a part of them that will feel satisfied when they read it. Like, if I were them, and I did someone wrong, and they took the time to write out this long email bashing me and telling me so, there would be a part of me that sat there smug while reading it. Like, "Heh. I got his ass." And I don't like giving men that satisfaction. So if I feel royally screwed over by one, I'll write out this long eloquent email telling them exactly what I think of them, but I won't actually send it to them. All I need is that release. Once I put my words to paper (or computer screen) I get that release and I can move on. And I also agree that the best way to convey to them how you feel about them is to just cut them out of your life with absolutely no explanation. Once, I wrote it out and actually sent it. And you know, I didn't feel satisfied at all. I actually regretted it after a while. He never responded, I never thought he would, and it ended up feeling like I gave him the one thing he wanted: to know he affected my ass the way he did. And now he'd have that proof forever. The next time I felt compelled to write a letter, I did. But this time, I left it on my computer and revisited it a few times before I deleted it, his number, got rid of all his pictures and gifts, and changed my information so he wouldn't try to contact me. And I never really expected him to, but several months later, he tracked down my work email and sent me one of those letters. And I knew, I got my last word. Without having to say anything, without giving him that satisfaction, I was able to let him know I didn't care about him and didn't want him anymore. His email was a short pissy one mentioning the fact that I dropped his ass the way I did and even changed my email and numbers. And I was the one who sat there smug and satisfied. Knowing that after all that time he thought he got over on me to realize I was the one who changed my info and didn't want him anymore actually got to him. And that's what I wanted. I wanted him to know I was walking away and he meant so little to me at that point, I didn't even bother to give him the courtesy of a goodbye or a last cry. You wrote one epic letter, but I'd suggest you sit on it a few days. And if you still feel like sending it, and know that you might wind up feeling less satisfied if you do, send it.LakiSwirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08229099420127310752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-1038410060610881412012-02-21T10:49:35.835-05:002012-02-21T10:49:35.835-05:00I like this Rells...
"he thinks he's ign...I like this Rells...<br /><br />"he thinks he's ignoring you until one day he realizes you just didnt give a fuck anymore"<br /><br />Now that speaks volumes right there.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-43975777248778717292012-02-21T10:48:34.108-05:002012-02-21T10:48:34.108-05:00Hey Rells! Thanks for dropping in. Like you said...Hey Rells! Thanks for dropping in. Like you said "I didn't live with that shyt inside of me."<br /><br />That's the big thing. At the end of it all, the letter would be about ME. Not about his reaction. <br /><br />What will I do? What will I do?Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-74482548174761887532012-02-21T10:43:14.199-05:002012-02-21T10:43:14.199-05:00Hi.
I thought about what you said a lot last ni...Hi. <br /><br />I thought about what you said a lot last night.<br /><br />But what if you don't care what he thinks anymore? What if you don't care that he laughs it off? Does having the last word REALLY mean that you have a hold on me? Or that you could come back? Questions! Questions! LOL.<br /><br />I can't see myself letting him back though. I am thoroughly turned off. If I did entertain him I would just lure him to me and be sweet and then when I'm finished getting my jollies I would just tell him to get the fck out. And I wouldn't even waste my time with that so.... <br /><br />I already sent a couple texts the other day but they were nothing like this letter and were very light. I do agree with you 100% that being silent works wonders, but since I sent those texts I've already missed that opportunity? That's why I was like what the hell about the letter.<br /><br />Not sure if I feel a 'release' by just typing this though? Is this letter better or worse than me IMAGINING saying this to him in my head? No. Will the letter help me move on like you suggest? Probably so.<br /><br />I dunno. I'm thinkin' about what your perspective as a male. Seriously I am. Ignoring works wonders but in this situation I've given it energy already by sending the texts.<br /><br />Hmmm...Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-32339747637190247412012-02-20T23:48:37.211-05:002012-02-20T23:48:37.211-05:00That was awesome. i was getting ready to say SEND ...That was awesome. i was getting ready to say SEND THAT SHITTT NOWWW!!! ....until i read the post above. damn. im torn now.... i cant tell you what to do i've sent countless emails that never even get a response (not like your masterpiece, lol) but at the end of the day who cares. i said it. regardless if you read it or not. i said it to your face (well ur inbox) & didnt live with that shit inside of me. <br /><br />i will say one thing tho i do agree with strtpimpin..ignoring someone will drive them crazy hurt more than any words you could ever say. and even tho 'he aint callin' or reaching out to you. you know that fool is going crazy inside his warped lil mind. no matter how dead inside he is. he thinks he's ignoring you until one day he realizes you just didnt give a fuck anymore. and he was the one being ignored the whole time. <br /><br />hey....i support whatever you do.Rells333https://www.blogger.com/profile/00876063771409828945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-38607770197789730942012-02-20T23:00:00.799-05:002012-02-20T23:00:00.799-05:00Don't send it. Writing it has accomplished wha...Don't send it. Writing it has accomplished what YOU needed, a release. Women who feel shytted on in relationships always tend to say "you'll never find one that love you, treats you, do the things I did blah blah blah" or something to that affect. To men, especially a self absorbed one, it all sounds sorta amusing and does not make us regret whatever we did to cause the breakup. It lets us know that in your efforts to tell us off and get the last word, we have a hold on you still. You are spot on in saying he won't change, and sending the letter will just empower him to come back later on and insert himself back into your life. The best thing to do is cut ties without any explanation. That will affect him exponentially more than the letter. Let me put it to you like this, if you walked up to the devil and told him he was shyt and the worst thing ever what do you think his reaction would be vs just ignoring him and his antics like he didn't exist? You got your release, let it go and move on.Str8_Pimp_Neva_Chaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04672823753371100015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-59534714996793218312012-02-20T20:43:35.790-05:002012-02-20T20:43:35.790-05:00Hmmmm...
Hmmmmmmmmmm....
(thinks to self)Hmmmm...<br /><br />Hmmmmmmmmmm....<br /><br />(thinks to self)Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-48001805857929742182012-02-20T20:39:12.177-05:002012-02-20T20:39:12.177-05:00Thanks for this perspective. I agree with you tha...Thanks for this perspective. I agree with you that an actual conversation would be a mess. I too, express myself better with words. That's the reason why I started the blog! When I write...it's just liberating most times.<br /><br />Not looking for a response and I don't think he would give me one either. That's cool. He doesn't know how to communicate anyway. He's a mess. I just want to say what I want...uninterrupted.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-22033476171283883802012-02-20T20:20:00.804-05:002012-02-20T20:20:00.804-05:00LOL, well, I would say "thanks for the role y...LOL, well, I would say "thanks for the role you played in my life!"<br /><br />Honestly, I feel you. But I think that everything you have to say to him, will come to him in the form of Karma...<br /><br />Enough said...PhenomenallyMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189971928022944733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-39684576364052440742012-02-20T19:30:13.154-05:002012-02-20T19:30:13.154-05:00I wrote a letter similar to this...it was damn nea...I wrote a letter similar to this...it was damn near 3 pages. I put it in an envelope, dropped it off to his house and then told him to check his mailbox. I needed to get it off my chest. I express myself better through words. Had I tried to tell him all of that over the phone or in person, I would've flown off the deep end. You may not get a response...then again you may run into each other one day. Treat it like a message in a bottle. Let it find its destination and you go on with your life knowing you've said everything you've needed to say.★Starrlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00579391753293816772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-29943882589507829212012-02-20T17:15:18.215-05:002012-02-20T17:15:18.215-05:00I did the purge. Deleted his phone number and blo...I did the purge. Deleted his phone number and blocked it, although I know that punk ain't gonna call. Deleted the dyck pic too. Once I wrote this I did feel better, so I am not hot as hell mad. I don't think I ever was. I'm just pissed and wanna have my REAL SAY you know. I can calm myself a bit like you said though...but I'm not gonna wait days and days.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-3821767592827452212012-02-20T17:12:12.409-05:002012-02-20T17:12:12.409-05:00Applause. You're feelin' me on this.Applause. You're feelin' me on this.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-613746109988402632012-02-20T17:11:38.940-05:002012-02-20T17:11:38.940-05:00Applause!Applause!Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-39265681975433841432012-02-20T16:46:38.473-05:002012-02-20T16:46:38.473-05:00I say send this shit. Send it. Without a care in t...I say send this shit. Send it. Without a care in the world. Hell as I was posting this I would've pressed send. I'm a firm believer in truth. Hard truth. Serve him up some nice truth pudding.NonyWorkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12062958649301670828noreply@blogger.com