tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post7434605323071638781..comments2023-08-05T11:52:16.538-04:00Comments on Diary of a Broke Ass Woman: Buy Me Some Happiness..Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)http://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-38810845927129945702011-09-07T22:30:49.903-04:002011-09-07T22:30:49.903-04:00There is a lot here but the part about your mum is...There is a lot here but the part about your mum is what got me the most... The role that mothers play in our lives is defining. I remember moments when my mum said the most hurtful things to me without realising the gravity of her words... And others when she lifted me from some serious depression without knowing she just saved me from myself... Sometimes their words can make or break us... We just have to remember that, despite how important they are, we have the final say. Our mums can influence them, but we actually create the persons we want to be...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-32079974073476265562011-08-17T10:56:36.744-04:002011-08-17T10:56:36.744-04:00Hey everyone! Sorry for the delayed response but ...Hey everyone! Sorry for the delayed response but for some reason I couldn't make a comment on my own blog? I fixed it though.<br /><br />Thanks for the encouraging words about what I wrote, and thanks for understanding where I am coming from.<br /><br />@ test...Oh I kinda dig my natural hair now. I don't wear it out much. I do go and get it flat ironed and trimmed every now and then, but I rock the wigs because I am in the gym a lot. And thanks for that fantastic question regarding a book. Nah girl, never thought about it. I don't think it would sell many copies lol. But I have this little movie short that is pretty cool. Maybe one day I'll write it as a full length deal. Writing doesn't come that easy..it's pure labor. That's why I don't post that much. Too lazy. :)<br /><br />@ Eden...Your comment was wonderful. It's cool when someone can relate to what you are talking about.<br /><br />@LakiSwirl...You go Mami!!! I'm glad you did your surgery too. And again, thanks for sharing your experience growing up. Shoot your moms said more than mine would have. My moms would have just turned it back on me so mentioning it wouldn't do a thing for me or her at this point. <br /><br />@ Jetaime...awww girl. Well like you said, you will do better. Being a parent is not easy and there is always something to learn. I was telling my friend something about what he says to his daughter and his response was, "Oh she don't even be thinking about that." Ok so how do you know? See what I mean? She will remember more than he knows. Please believe that.Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15947789188975040591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-14594316951668191512011-08-14T06:05:45.045-04:002011-08-14T06:05:45.045-04:00This is pretty deep stuff, and it's nice you s...This is pretty deep stuff, and it's nice you shared it. Please know you are not alone on this issue and many people will be glad to read that someone else goes through similar things.<br /><br />In my personal instance, it was not my family but some in my peer group. There were those who made fun of my nose, lips and hair. Everything but my skin colour because, you know, 'making fun of black skin is racist' :-/ The way it affected me was that I ended up relaxing my hair to try to get the eurocentric look. But I think after a time, I just said "fuck it - I want to be happy being me". And I think that because my family instilled in me the massage that being me was OK, I could do it. What people routinely say at home really matter because it's a message that is reinforced all the time.<br /><br />I'm sorry the things your mother said stayed with you and bothered you. But you are right: you should do what makes you happy and <i>what works</i> to help you move forward and enjoy life. Some people will find your choices in how you do that hard to understand especially when they are not in your shoes. But they are not in your shoes. I hope you will find the right direction with this and it helps. And cheers for sharing too :-)Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03855310202280105764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-11853994705483463632011-08-13T00:54:32.188-04:002011-08-13T00:54:32.188-04:00I just read every single post on your blog! Have ...I just read every single post on your blog! Have you considered writing a book or something? Your posts were so well written and so honest... definitely going to add you to my reader.<br />It kind of made me sad to read about your issues with your hair. The funny thing is that you probably have a beautiful head of hair, if only you knew how to handle the hair. I went natural last year and it was the most liberating experience ever. There are so many natural hair blogs out there that you might find useful..<br />As far as surgery, do whatever makes you happy... but just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. I can see myself looking at breast lifts in the future..testhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07825963323768955004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-70870506212285244392011-08-09T19:37:10.060-04:002011-08-09T19:37:10.060-04:00DAMN..I feel guilty.
Alright, I will admit that I...DAMN..I feel guilty.<br /><br />Alright, I will admit that I clown my daughter regularly about inheriting her daddy's hair and her dark chocolate complexion. In my situation, sometimes I'm joking and sometimes I'm not.<br /><br />gots.to.do.better.EarthAngel172https://www.blogger.com/profile/10658781837417659709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1661945440022273897.post-10175258070813338382011-08-09T15:52:54.116-04:002011-08-09T15:52:54.116-04:00I understand this post all too well. My mom used ...I understand this post all too well. My mom used to say some pretty harsh things to me when I was growing up too. And I know she didn't mean for it to be harsh, she used to joke about my appearance and give me nicknames about it, but it really really bothered me. When I brought it up months ago, she laughed it off and told me she was never being mean to me. And in her mind she wasn't. But in my mind that shit gave me a complex that I still carry. I gave myself a little plastic surgery for myself earlier this year and didn't tell anyone until I had it done 'cause I didn't wanna hear anything from them. The few people I hypothetically brought it up to beforehand looked at me like I was crazy and then started looking really hard at the area I said I wanted corrected, so I stopped talking about it till after the fact. And I'm SOOOO glad I did it. So good for you, girl. Do what you gotta do 'cause you're the one living with it, not them.LakiSwirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08229099420127310752noreply@blogger.com