Weenie Men Make Me I.L.L.

Someone I know is getting his azz wiped across the floor by his baby momma.  She f*cks him every chance she gets, and he doesn't do shyt.  Or when he does try to do something, it's like weeks later after he has strategized and created some kind of half baked game plan to deal with her.   And of course the plan never works.

Point blank.  He is just scared of her.

Before the child was even conceived, he told me that he had told her that he wanted to break up.  So what did she say in reply?

"If you leave me I will call the Department of Children and Family Services and tell them that you sexually abused my three year old son."

WTF???

So the average guy would have bounced right?  But not this one!  Noooo....he goes to his delusional strategizing and comes up with some two year exit plan to leave her.  He figured once the son turned five he would leave then so that the kid wouldn't lie for her? 

Yeah it sounded crazy to me too....

Then she gets pregnant.  I guess he couldn't stay away from that crazy woman's p*ssy.  And I bet she probably jumped on him that night -- because I can't even fathom him asking for "some" from that chick.  She probably was bossing his azz around during sex too.

Over and over again she keeps shytting on him, and now the little 5 year old daughter is disrespecting him too.  And any adult that comes around him.  He doesn't discipline her in a convincing enough manner when she shows her little azz.  I try to listen to his stories and give support and advice (because I have other friends going thru similar shyt), but he is just too slow to react and hesistant to have her taken to court for violating their court order repeatedly.

So now I think that I have lost respect for him myself.  Is that wrong?

I told him that I can't even look at him anymore.  I can't deal with him anymore.  Long ago I told him to stop telling me stories, but last week he told me that he went to his daughter's school to find out her schedule, and the school office told him that the mother had withdrawn her that morning.

Ummm, don't y'all have joint custody and aren't you BOTH supposed to make these decisions?

So what does he do?  He sends her a text two days later saying, "Please let me know where to pick up my daughter on Monday."

Not once did he question her about what she did!   Not once did he mention that she violated the court order. 

He's a lame and she knows it and that's why she does what she does.  Let's list a few of her stunts:

• Called the police and they came to his house.  For what?  To check his refrigerator to see if he had food in it because she claimed that the daughter complained that he wasn't feeding her.
• Refused to let him pick her up after claiming that child got ring worm in her head from his house.  He didn't see her for two weeks. 
• Asked if she could get an extra day so her mom could take her daughter to a holiday party.  When he went to pick her up she refused.  Again he didn't see her for two weeks.
• Video taped the daughter crying when he picked her up from the day care...instead of consoling the daughter.  Gave the tape to Child Welfare Services.
• Accused him of sexually molesting the son anyway!  Then lame azz goes to the police station to 'turn himself in'.  Why the Lord only knows?

Oh the list goes on, but those are a few of the highlights.

So why do I care?  Because I guess he is telling me the shyt.  I think he has no one else to tell it to.  I think he tells me so that I will jump on his bandwagon with him against her.  But the truth is that all it did was made me focus on him.

In my life I never met such a punk azz, grown azz man.  It's soooo unattractive.  It's sooooo pussyfied. 

Even though I am (or was) his friend I have to be honest.  I have lost respect for him.

It may be wrong.  But that's just how I feel about it.  Who wants to be around a lame?

I have tried to help, offer advice, and refer him to help for dads.  I even suggested that he speak to therapist about managing his bad azz daughter.

Point blank...just too f*cking NICE and way too focused on being the 'bigger man'.  I think he feels that if he gets fired up he is losing control. 

I would have never thought that I would be annoyed at someone that was TOO NICE, but it's true.

Call it wrong.  Call it f*cked up... 

but I can't stand a weenie muthafucka.  Friend or not.

And that's that.

Sorry but I just had to just get that off my chest this morning.