Thursday, June 17, 2010

The Day After...

So about that post from yesterday.
The court case is over...and no, I AM NOT HAPPY OR RELIEVED.

The other side came up with a higher amount, but I wasn't thinking and f*cked myself on the negotiation on fees with my devil attorney.  The attorney did nothing on my case and I knew that for a long time.  With the bankruptcy coming up for me last year I had no money to retain a new attorney.  So I stuck with their lame asses.  I had no choice.

Anyway, it is too much to go into but I should have taken my ass to trial!!!  We would have selected a jury so that might have given me a little better outcome.  I just didn't trust who was defending me, but we did negotiate an additional $5000 on my claim.  My attorneys claimed that I owed them $17800 (lies) and that I had already paid $10K.  I know that there was no f*ckn way that I ran up a $28000 defending this shyt.  Bullshyt.  Strait bullshyt.  They were just trying to scare me into taking the bullshyt settlement that was on the table at the time.  When they saw that I wasn't falling for it, they sweetened the deal in order to entice me not to go to trial.  He comes back days later and says that he will 'wipe' out the $17800 that I owe him and he would take half of my settlement.  Red light.  Red light.  See, that tells you right there that those charges were not right.  Who would give up that much money if you owed it to them?

Anyway, to make a long story short, I split the settlement once it went higher and walked away because those guys weren't gonna defend my shyt right.  I needed to get away from them, but was it worth letting them take half though?

But for some reason I am not cool with that logic.  I am just not.  I wanted to go forward and go to trial.  That's what I felt most compelled to do.  But of course that costs money, and I already paid those incompetent mothafuccas more than they deserved.  It had to stop right????  I'm thinking that what I should have done was...

ahhh f*ck it!!!!!

I'm not gonna even say it and it doesn't even matter.  I know me though.  I'm gonna rewind this in my head all day because I made a mistake with my deal with these devils.  I'm kicking myself right now.  I really am.

Will the Diary of a Broke Ass Woman ever end? I honestly thought it would with the court case.

What I got is NOT ENOUGH to get started again with my business.  That's what's wrong with all of this.  I can't do shyt with that change I got yesterday.  Except.....


So while I come up with another plan I'm thinking about leaving here?  Since being here I have:

-Gotten laid off

-Been robbed at gunpoint and had over $20K stolen from me

-Got into almost $90K in business and personal debt

-Had someone put peanuts in one car

-Had someone scratch up and take a marker and write all over my new 2010 car

-Had problems with my old landlord

-Hated where I moved to because the people were making too much noise

-Got screwed when I tried to move my business

-Got screwed by my attorneys

-Lost my business

-Filed bankruptcy

And that's just what I can remember right now.  I'm sure there is more that I can add to the list.

Soooooo....what the hell am I gonna do now?  Why stay in the NYC area if I am just gonna work a regular job?  I can go back to the midwest and live a little cheaper and be closer to the family.  Moms is getting older ya know. 

I want to do something more than just work a job because unfortunately I just feel like life can be simply just about that.  Is that why we have children so that they can grow up to pay bills like we're doing?   Do you say,

"Oh I want to have a child because so when they grow up they can be a slave to a job and bills!  I mean I hope that they won't and be famous, rich, and smart, but most likely that won't happen .  But I don't care, I'll bring them here anyway!  Hell I'm only on the hook until they are 18 right?  That's when I can tell them they gotta get their ass out and live their life because I did my job raising them." 

I'm exaggerating, but isn't that what happens more or less?  When I see the old ladies on the bus everyday I ask myself is that gonna be me?  Old and sitting on the bus talking too much with a hairdo from whatever year I was last considered a (PYT) pretty young thang?  You know how old ladies get stuck in time with their hair style.  In court I saw a lady with a Jheri curl and barely walking, but she had on her work uniform.  Barely moving but still gotta get up and go to work.  Shudders.  You should see the HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of people I see in the subway hastily walking with wide, frantic eyes trying to get to work in the mornings like scared mice.  It really is a scene if you are paying attention to it.

Anyhow I'm getting off track with this post.  The point is that it seems that the older I get, the more shyt happens to me, and the more I get shyt on.  I am not getting better with age and I don't know how much more I can take.

Filipino dude wants to go out again.  I probably will.  I was thinking that I am gonna relight my account for one last month too.
Oooh, I have to post that information that I learned at the blow job class the other day.  That would suck if I forgot it all wouldn't it?  Lol.


  1. Perhaps you want to choose another word then suck (lol).
    I'm sorry about what happened but at least it left you in the black. In my high school yearbook I wrote I wanted to be a lawyer that was before I actually knew what they do. I've only needed one once when I got divorced and realized how sleazy, money hungry, lazy, and unconcerned about whats right or your rights they really are. In fact the whole process has little to do with justice it comes down to who has the better "higher priced" lawyer.
    I've fantasied about having my own business and did, while still employed, for a while. For me I realized that what you go into business for is only 25-50 percent of your time the rest is dealing with issues and concerns that I detested. But I do hope you succeed and stay local simply because it would be nice to bump into you one day :)

  2. Nah I am not in the black. Not in any way, shape, or form.

    But you are right about attorneys. So very right.

  3. I acknowledge all the bad things that have happened to you but it seems to me that if you continually focus on the negative, it will come to be. "All thoughts which have been emotionalized (given feeling)and mixed with faith begin immediately to translate themselves into their physical equivalent or counterpart." Let's look at how you've been blessed to be here and lived through all of this to begin again.

  4. i need to go back and read some older posts as I dont remember anything about a court case. what ive learned in this career field is to not trust the lawyer if its not natural. You live and you learn, right?

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  6. Sorry to hear about all the atty drama... the definitely seem shady with the fee thing. You should definitely have them reprint your bills as they should all be detailed with time and rates. In retrospect you definitely would have spent ALOT more by going to trial so maybe it was best to cut your losses. I hope that you figure out whats best for you!! Stay motivated and in the meantime let Filipino dude whine and dine you!!

  7. atruhollywood...
    Thanks. Should I still even bother with asking for the bills now since we settled? I wonder...

  8. Oh yes...Filipino dude is aiight. Took me to this R&B spot in the city okay? I didn't know about this place but he did. Monifah from back in the day was up there singing too.

    He's cool. If only he were a little cuter...



  9. I am revising my reply:

    Hey Vin,

    I think that is from The Secret. I know about that. Why would you say that I am CONTINUOUSLY focusing on the negative? I don't think I am doing that deliberately. These things are happening because it is the way people are in this world and what we do to each other. I am trying to do better for myself, I treat people farily, but I guess I am just not as slick thinking as others and it ends up not working in my favor most times.

    @ Khaki...

    Yea I probably haven't said anything about since maybe last year? Oh yes. I am living and learning all the time!!!! I did trust them way too much. You see what the first poster said though? I guess you should also be wary and remember that attorneys are motivated by money and not your best interests.

  10. ^^ I guess in so many words I don't want to hear that it is my fault. I know it is and I don't want ANOTHER person telling me that. My mother has been doing it all my life!!! :-)

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    Makes you very hot.

    Cougar got me thinking.....

  12. I love it! Hee hee.

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