The bottom line is: Why in the hell would you expect someone to change when they have constantly been doing the shyt to you? Why would you give these people the benefit of the doubt? What do you gain from doing that? A warm fuzzy feeling? F*ck a warm fuzzy feeling my therapist said (well in so many words she said that. She ain't that gangsta.)
The therapist says it is f*cked up to think this way about people, but you have to protect yourself. That's all that matters. Sad to say that my trust in people has greatly diminished, and will be even worse for those people who I am paying. For these type of people, my zero tolerance policy will be in full effect. And I may be considered a bytch or have BGA (Black Girl Attitude) like another blogger defines it, but I gotta protect myself. I don't want to be sitting in the therapist's office crying no mo' over shyt that I could have prevented.
I'm going back to her today cuz I'm still buggin a little bit. I do feel better. I already starting icing folks though. Like Mr. Sharpie with the high pitched voice and the little d*ck.
I finally told him this weekend,
"Kofi, pleeeeaassse find you someone else to like. You really need to find somebody else."
"But I love you! You don't love me?"
"Arrgggh! No I don't and I have BEEN telling you that. It's never gonna happen. You deserve to have someone that likes you back. That's what you should try to do."
"I'm coming to your house."
"For what Kofi? I don't like you like that and this madness just needs to stop. For real. This is getting ridiculous."
He mumbled something else but I didn't hear it. Then he hung up.
Well I had to be honest right? He wasn't picking up the cues so I just had to make it simple and plain. I had to do it. Sad thing though is that his azz will probably call back in a few months. I really wish he would find him a girl that likes him with the same intensity that he puts out.
It ain't over between me and that lawyer though. I'm cooking up a plan and doing my research. Meanwhile I guess my attitude will be like the chick below. Of course I will keep it classy, but if I'm paying yo' ass and you ain't doin' shyt right, F*CK YOU and GOODBYE..
and that's that!
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(Doesn't her hand seem a lil' huge in this pic though?)